Crescent City Sucks

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Saturday, May 07, 2005

guidelines for blogging

A few hours farting around online yeilded this, but it seems that the issue is divided on blogging anonymously and simplying going for it and ignoring all the people who have been fired for blogging. In California, your employer can fire you anytime for anything, so I might as well continue. Word to the wise - If I had simply kept my mouth shut in the first place, no one at work would have known about my blog.


At 5/08/2005 04:24:00 AM, Anonymous just another small town guy said...

However, I have a hunch that keeping your mouth shut is not one of your best attributes.

You do, BTW, write quite well and are a great observer of people and write with perception and humor.

But do you really think that running down your store's customers while telling everyone what and where it is was such a great idea?

If only one regular customer goes elsewhere because they don't want to be made fun of on the internet your boss loses $40 a week, enough to pay you for one day.

And if two, or more, regular customers go elsewhere ... you're out of a job regardless as your boss can't afford you, or anyone else.

And what's with this?
"This place never opened itself to me, never took me in and accepted me for who I was when I was younger or who I’ve become. I had to leave to be accepted, only far from home could I discover my true self."

Could you explain why any place is OBLIGED to ACCEPT you or anyone else?

And what have you yourself done to make yourself more acceptable to the small town in which you live?

My guess? NOTHING.

What part about living in a small town don't you understand?

Point #2: while you may feel you're "accepted" in that place far, far away, in reality you're IGNORED -- which is quite different from acceptance.

Being ignored and anonymous are just about the only advantages I can think of about living in a larger city.

At 5/08/2005 09:17:00 AM, Blogger michael said...

All I can say is you're right on all counts. I've made several stupid mistakes concerning the blog by not keeping it anonymous, but I've decided that I don't care. I've been fired from worse jobs for less reason. In addition, I don't think me poking fun at the occasional customer will cause them not to shop there. Alcohol and cigarettes? Please. They're fucking ADDICTED. Please, come to the store and check it out, in fact, go to any liquor store in an economically depressed area or town and look around. It's depressing and I choose to fight that with humor.
About the other whining bullshit entry; I regretted posting it as soon as I wrote it, but it was honestly how I felt and therefore posted it anyway. I guess I never really wanted acceptance here as I despised what I percieved this place embodied. Sometimes I forget, usually on a miserable, cold, rainy night.

At 5/08/2005 04:32:00 PM, Anonymous anne said...

Everybody wants to be accepted for who they are in the place they call home. That's normal.

At 5/09/2005 03:32:00 PM, Anonymous just another small town guy said...

It is also "normal" for a community to shun someone that strays too far from the local accepted societal norms.

And until such time as Michael identifies what keeps his community from "accepting" him, we can just assume the worst.

This may sound extreme, but short of telling your neighbors to fuck off or other rude behavior, I'm at a loss to understand why he feels ostracized.

My bet is that he has chosen to make a statement with tattos, facial piercings, angry music, outlandish clothing, or some other rebellious coming-of-age, look-at-me act where asserting individuality essentially broadcasts a big EFF to everyone else.

As the saying goes, you only get one chance to make a good first impression, so it had better be a good one.

At 5/09/2005 06:06:00 PM, Blogger michael said...

Dude, I was in a bad mood when I made that post. I don't "fit in" because I'm not a redneck or crackhead. It doesn't really bother me. I'm just an average guy, not some freak who goes around unloading my shit on whoever I happen apon through my behavior, the way I dress, or the music I listen to. I've also lived here long enough to watch this town transform from a quaint little tourist town into something very ugly. I'm only talking about what is within the city limits... The outlying areas surrounding it are some of the most beautiful places on earth.
I don't feel obligated to explain to an anonymous commentator what exactly my problems are. If you don't like what I have to say or the way I say it, don't read my blog. If you really want to talk to me, leave an email address and I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have.

At 5/09/2005 08:44:00 PM, Anonymous anne said...

People are unaccepted for all sorts of different reasons, not just because they are acting in an offensive manner. Someone might be unaccepted because they have more money, less money, a different religion, political beliefs,etc. A single person is going to feel somewhat ostracized by their married friends, and someone who is married with all single friends is going to feel left out there, too. It happens, and it does not necessarily mean that the odd man out is guilty of anything wrong.

At 5/10/2005 03:26:00 PM, Anonymous Dude said...

Michael --

#1 Thanks for the new name, it's much shorter than "just another small town guy."

#2 Thanks for the offer of a private discussion via email. However, the last time I checked I still had a brain between my ears and that brain tells me that should I post my email address on yours, on any other blog, or, anywhere else on the net, I'll soon be slammed with spam. So, I send my regrets.

#3 What's with the anger?

At 5/10/2005 03:35:00 PM, Anonymous dude said...

Anne --

I agree with you up until your final statement: "... it does not necessarily mean that the odd man out is guilty of [doing] anything wrong."

Michael admits that he feels as if he's surrounded by rednecks and he feels like he doesn't fit in.

And, while finding oneself in such a situation in and of itself does not mean he did nothing wrong, his reaction to the situation can most assuredly be judged.

And those doing the judging have a perfect right to judge Michael by his reaction to them because Michael has already judged them.

In closing, two statements comes to mind:
- What goes around comes around.
- When in Rome ...

At 5/10/2005 06:47:00 PM, Blogger michael said...

1)you're welcome,and
2)last time I checked most people with a brain between their ears know how to set up an alternate email account. So?

At 5/11/2005 01:58:00 AM, Anonymous anne said...

(1)What you've been doing all along is judging Michael. If he's not allowed to judge people he actually knows, who the fuck are you to judge someone on the basis of one week's worth of blog entries?

(2)It is poor etiquette to flame someone anonymously. You need to post your e-mail address and a link to your own site so we can see how truly superior you are. Otherwise, people might start judging you for cowardice.

(3)Of course he's angry. He doesn't need to waste his time talking to a judgemental coward who knows nothing about him. Leave his site and don't come back. Nobody wants you here.

At 5/11/2005 02:04:00 AM, Blogger Ed said...

Jeez, lighten up, dude! And you too, Michael - don't let this over-smart, internet-Yoda tell you how to live! If you both had a life, you wouldn't be spending 5 hours discussing such a stupid topic in the first place!

Yours truly, !

Ed !

At 5/11/2005 04:44:00 PM, Anonymous dude said...

To summarize:

- Michael mistakes my lack of desire to set up a bogus email account with ignorance on my part. Nice move, as it reveals more about himself than he realizes.

- Michael angrily challenges my intelligence but, as yet, has passed on answering the question I poised about his anger and his feeling that he is entitled to be accepted by people he belittles..

- Anne, who up until now appeared to be the voice of reason: I don't remember the exact citation, but somewhere it is written that those who live in glass houses should not throw stones. Translation: those who judge should expect to be judged in return.

- Anne, anonymous flaming? Excuse me?
#1 - perhaps I'm wrong but does not flaming usually involve comments that consist entirely of YOU SUUUUUUUUUUUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!and other such thoughtful commentary?

I thought I was engaging in an online discussion forum where mature adults discuss, share, and defend their ideas. I also believe, as a former journalist, that writers -- if they want to be taken seriously -- have the responsibility to document their facts and to defend their opinions.

Anonymous? Yeah. I'm anonymous. I'm Dude and he's Michael with no last name. Give me a break. I suppose I could go to that liquor store and find Michael, but as his place of employment is 3,000 miles from my home, I don't think I'll bother.

Coward? Interesting tactic: if you don't like the message change the topic by attacking the messenger. Bill O'Reilley and Rush Limbaugh would be proud of you.

Bottom line: I'm just a reader trying to understand why a man is publicly mixing astute human insights and observations with negative vitriole about the place he has chosen to live.

- Secondly, this whole discussion would not have even occurred had Michael just answered the question about his anger.

- Ed, I do have a life, which is why I don't have time to set up alternative email accounts so Michael can defend his vitriole off-line, and, nor do I have time to create and most importantly, MAINTAIN a blog like you, Michael, and Anne do.

At 5/14/2005 07:07:00 PM, Blogger Ed said...

Hunh? Whazzat? Sorry, I snoozed off somewhere during that last essay. Cheers, dude - you really have excellent sentence structure.


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